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One of the top fears public speakers have is that their audience won't like them. Whilst it's terrifying to think of yourself standing in front of a group of people who are mentally throwing daggers at you, there are tried and tested ways to get your audience on side.
It's normal to worry about the audience's perception of you and your material. After all empathy, one of Ginger's Six Qualities of an Inspiring Speaker teaches us to not worry about ourselves but focus on how to customize our speech for the audience. And as presenters, we will be much more successful if we design our presentations to adapt to our audiences’ needs. It's all about what THEY need.
But Sarah... you ask... what if my audience hates ME?
There are a number of things you can do to increase your ability to please an audience - through tools that are available on this website:
But Sarah... you ask again... what if my audience really REALLY doesn't like me?
Some audience members, no matter how witty and engaging, how charming and persuasive, how dynamic and brilliant you are... will NOT like you. Matter of fact they might not like you because of all those things.
Do what you can to engage your audience and don't worry about those who fail to be impressed. That's their issue, not yours.
In an interview for my book, "How to be Brilliant at Public Speaking" (Pearson), motivational speaker Nigel Risner told me:
"Get your audience on board with your first line and you're sorted. I often start with the question, 'How many people in this room would like to have at least five percent more success in some part of their life?', which starts my talk off with a YES. Find an opening line that guarantees a YES answer from 90% of your audience and half the battle is won.
Remember that in most speaking situations, 95% of the audience want to love you, they're on your side. The remaining five percent don't care how brilliant you are, they'll never like you. In every audience I speak to, five percent want to marry me, five percent want to kill me - it's bizarre. Acknowledge that this is all part of the game and focus on the 95 percent who like you."
Confidence 'no matter who likes me' derives from finding something that's more important to you than simply being liked. This is the mark of a truly powerful speaker and it derives from developing true authenticity in your speaking.
If you're only public speaking for the ego trip of having an audience love you, you face the risk of being destroyed by a negative audience. In this case you have no choice but to worry more or less constantly about what the audience is thinking of you.
If, however, you switch your focus to a message you deeply believe in, it's no longer important who feels uncomfortable or negative towards you on the way. Once you find something you believe in - something that goes beyond your desire to be loved - you will become bolder and more fearless than you thought possible.
Here, your audience liking you becomes secondary.
Ironically, if you focus on sharing an authentic message that you believe in no matter what, you'll find that your audience members WILL connect with you. If you're true to yourself you will attract the right people who can benefit for your message.
And those negative ones... well, they wouldn't have liked you anyway.
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